Sunday, September 29, 2013

A Girl's Best Friend

Nearly two weeks ago I was informed that Buddy has cancer.

I am not entirely sure that it has sunk in.                            I may be in denial.

                  I feel numb.   Like I have no right to be sad.
I mourned the loss of him 2 1/2 years ago.  And now I need to prepare to mourn the loss again.

Garth says he only has a few months....


I remember when Buddy was a few years old.  Garth and I were driving down to Wakarusa with Buddy.  We pulled up next to a man in a pick up truck.  He had a dog in the front seat.  They were both really, really old.  I looked at Garth and said, "I'm so excited to grow old with Buddy - it's going to be just.like.that."  Garth looked back at me and quickly reminded me that Buddy would probably die by the time I was 35 and there was no chance in hell that we would grow old together.  I was about 23 years old at the time.  I became very sad and consistently reminded myself of that moment - well, ever since then.


I just can't believe he has cancer.  Cancer.  What the fuck.

I don't know my place in any of this.  I don't really think there is a place for me.  I was able to see him.  It was surreal.  It was as if I had seen him all along.  Not once did it feel weird being with him again.

I had missed him so much.  I still miss him.  I guess I have never stopped missing him.

So I suppose this is the new normal.

Blech.

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