It's hard. What do you call a person who is your friend, though you never really talk or hangout and you mostly just see them in groups? It's difficult because at one point you hung out together, alone, and shared many a things, but now - not so much? An acquaintance?.... not really because it is more than just a slight friendship with someone.
I have a lot of people in my life like this. I am not sure if it became this way because of my rock star ex husband who always acted like a politician running for office when we were out in public, or simply because I get along with females and naturally it just happens. Regardless, it has happened.
I know a lot of females and often times they come to me with their problems. It's flattering and I enjoy talking it out and helping people gain perspective because, most of the time, I am also learning from all that the conversation brings up. I do, however, have issues with people who act like they want help or to talk it out - but really don't feel that they need to make a change to solve their problem. (You know, because doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result is NOT insane.... and god forbid THEY change when, clearly, they are not the problem). I digress....
There's normally not a whole lot of investment put into these relationships - on my end, anyway. Normally, our gatherings are just long enough for them to hash out all the bullshit drama that they're going through that they simply just don't know what to do... Or they mask their real motivations and feelings behind some passive behavior and I simply call them on it. Not in a bitchy way at all, just an honest observation. I hate when people are like, "Well, I don't mind if so and so does this, but....." No, you do mind and clearly it is a problem or else we wouldn't be sitting here wasting our precious visit talking about some bullshit you're not even being honest with yourself about.
The best is when someone is doing their best to justify behavior that really is not justifiable unless they're getting abused or something. Like cheating. Or dating an ex boyfriend of a friend (obviously each situation may differ, but I am talking about when said friend is clearly not over said ex boyfriend). These are just things you do not do. And if you do them, own it. Fucking own that shit. Take accountability and stop trying to act like what you are doing is OK. If you want the relationship - or fuck or whatever the hell it is, then obviously you value that more than the friendship that you had. Don't just act like you were never really friends or that they never really dated. It's called being delusional and in denial or just flat out being a lying cunt and now I don't even want to be your friend.
And the best part.....THE BEST PART..... is when I call you out on all of your bullshit and now I'M the bad guy. I'm "self righteous". I have gone through and done some really shitty things, the difference here? I've owned it and have been held accountable. I am not perfect and I never claimed to be. And I really like how I was good enough for you to come to and dump all your shit in my lap when I really don'tevencare, but when I say something you don't want to hear - now I am self righteous?
Get.Fucked.
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